I have learned through life and trough mistakes I've done in my life, that I shouldn't judge others because I have lots of defects myself. I've come to accept that life is more than going through it
looking at what I don't like in others. I try hard to 
control my urge to talk bad about others, though sometimes it's way too hard and I do it, but believe me, I don't feel any better after I do it. So if it's something that brings no joy to me, why do it? why waste time on something that doesn't have any positive effect on anyone?. In that case, the judging is kept to a minimum and I work hard at not doing it at all if possible. I would like to come to a place in the road where I don't care about other peoples shortcomings, I just love and receive love, I keep my life simple yet happy. I've wasted so much time in my life, at different times in my life. I've thrown away my time and energy on people who really didn't deserve it, at times taking away from the people who most deserved it......my children. I guess maybe it wasn't wasted time, I've read that everything happens for a reason.......although sometimes we can't find the reason no matter how hard we look. But I have to trust that God put those people in my life for a reason, and that somehow I might have taken something positive from them, and in some small way they took something positive from me. I do feel I lost some precious time with my children because of these people, but that's okay, I won't be too hard on myself. I have always given my children an enormous amount of love, so I know they are all good in the love department. Hopefuly I'm a bit wiser now, and will put my children first, unless it's someone who really needs and deserves of my time.
